I think I might be in an abusive relationship with my husband. He has a very quick temper and screams and yells at me, calling me stupid, every few weeks. Anything can trigger him, even the most stupid thing. I am scared of speaking freely because I don’t know what might set him off. I have made another post giving a few examples in another subreddit. Moreover he goes through my phone, whenever he remembers to, and checks the conversations I have with people. He is jealous of every man in my life. He also is very judgmental of what I eat and if I eat too much, even though I am 136 lb, 5,5.
I want to leave the relationship. I have a full time job that pays very good money, I just got a raise and I might be getting a promotion soon. I love what I do. My company is willing to pay for my masters degree!! I am also getting a patent through my company. But I don’t want to lose all this. I have worked really hard and don’t want to lose everything I have built here in the US because I am here on a conditional green card, and I will be able to apply for removal of condition in exactly one year. However, I want to get out of this relationship ASAP. I am already starting to suffer from depression, I have anxiety and I am on antidepressants. He knows that the yelling triggers me because my mom used to do the same and she has BPD. But he still does it. I want to leave but I am afraid for my future. I called an immigration lawyer and they told me that they cannot do anything for me now because I have to divorce first, but I am scared of divorcing because I am scared of losing my immigration status.
I need help.