How to get over the regret of a past decision of not choosing a path that was the golden ticket to solving all your current problems in life.
Back in 2012, when I had changed jobs I had 2 options regarding my immigration case in US -
Option 1 - return to my homeland for a year and come back to US and file in EB1. This way I would have gotten my green card by 2014.
Option 2 - stay in the US and be in green card queue for over a decade.
Option 1 was the clear winner here, but I had struggled so hard to come to US in the first place that I did not think long term and decided to go with option 2 . What followed that decision were problems in all aspect of my life -
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I was so unhappy with my job but could not change it, as my job was tied to my GC application by employer.
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My career never progressed in that job as I never go promoted.
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I was earning good money, but I could never invest in buying a house in US (which was a dream for me) as I was not a permanent resident.
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I decided to use my money to buy a property in my homeland, and all my finances are stuck there.
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All my finances are overall messed up right now.
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My visa in US was rejected in 2018 before my green card was ever approved.
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Once my visa was rejected, I had to pack everything and go back to my homeland. I have struggled very hard to come to Canada now. I have struggled for almost 3 years to settle in Canada now.
Now my priority date for my GC has become current but I can no longer avail it as I am no longer with the employer. Sadly, I still want to go back to US. I do not like Canada.
Now I am in the same situation as in 2012, trying to avail the EB1, but no longer have the opportunity or employer for it. Not to mention all the troubles I have gone through in the last decade, and the regret of missed opportunities. This entire decade of struggles, frustration, disappointments has left me very exhausted - emotionally and mentally.
Where do I go from here? I am very depressed and in deep regret after this realization. I can't move seem to forward from this mistake and the incurred losses.
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